Ryan the Temp said:

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Doctors described that he was so intelligent that he was able to fight it internally for so long until the stroke made it real.

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This is really interesting. My MIL understood enough that things were not right with her that she could muster the strength to BS doctors and nurses for a while. When we finally figured it out, were amazed she could basically fake not having dementia in certain situations.

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I'm sorry that happened to your MIL as well. We were pretty amazed to find out he had it for 3+ years by their guess and he didn't show signs of it until the last month before he went south. I'm guessing it's also like a lobster in a pot, where if a random person saw us interact on the street, they would have told us we were boiling.

chanceg2784 said:

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Some very good advice offered thus far. We dropped my mom off in a memory care facility yesterday, as her condition had progressed to the point my dad could not safely care for her. Someone mentioned seeking counseling for caregivers, I can't stress enough how important that is.

I would also recommend seeking the advice of an elder care attorney, to ensure your family's legal and financial affairs are in order. Where this train is going, late-stage dementia care can be catastrophic financially.

I am very sorry you and your family are going through this, I wouldn't wish this condition on my worst enemy.

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I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. That's tough.

Don't be afraid to seek counseling/therapy yourself, it's a tough disease for everyone around the patient.

Absolutely for the caretaker. No shame whatsoever in this. They'll need it the most.