I have faced this situation many times. At work, some friends, my wife.
15 years ago when I was low on self-confidence, I felt that I was not good enough and I had to improve myself. Then I realized that I was being gaslighted by all these folks.
I give them the internal middle finger, but are there effective ways of neutralizing them?

I'll give you a couple of options:
1. Ignore them
2. Call them out on it, then ignore them
3. Take a dump on the hood of their respective cars

I decided to divorce the last person that was gaslighting me

Stop caring what other people think?

use matches?

I think the important thing to remember is that this is all in your head and you're being crazy/unreasonable.

I recommend going to Moab and taking some shrooms in the backcountry as a method to reset your brain and your outlook on relationships.

stop letting people in. learn to carry yourself as stoic and reserved as you can, then watch how afraid people are of giving you unsolicited opinions.

HoseMad said:

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stop letting people in. learn to carry yourself as stoic and reserved as you can, then watch how afraid people are of giving you unsolicited opinions.

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Yes, yes isolation and squashing down any emotions is certainly the way to go

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How to deal with gaslighters?

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Calm down, you're making a scene.

The only real answer is self advocacy and creating true boundaries.

Tear down their fence literally or metaphorically

First of all, if someone is attempting to gaslight you and you don't have to interact with them, I'd recommend cutting them off. I know that isn't possible with everyone, though.

In my experience, I couldn't even begin to identify when my ex was gaslighting me until I got to the point that I could trust myself. Gaslighting really only works on someone who is already primed to doubt their own intuition or evaluation of a situation. Therapy helped me rebuild that self trust. Since then when I've realized that it's happening, I just outright call it what it is. "You are trying to gaslight me, and it isn't working because I know XYZ to be true." It took about a year of me doing that consistently before he just stopped trying altogether. Learning to set that boundary was definitely one of my biggest "wins" from years of therapy.

Open the valves yourself.

what is gaslighting??

You should let a professional plumber or HVAC guy look at it. Last thing you would want is your house blowing up. Who do you think everyone would blame for that?

Gaslighting is out.

Sea Lioning is the new big deal.

LupinusTexensis said:

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I recommend going to Moab and taking some shrooms in the backcountry as a method to reset your brain and your outlook on relationships.

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I think you need some good old fashioned LSD.

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Stop caring what other people think?

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It's harder if it is your wife.

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agnerd said:

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Stop caring what other people think?

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It's harder if it is your wife.

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Pour water on anyone trying to gas light

Was married to a gaslighter for 21 years until I realized through counseling what I was dealing with. I lost so much in that marriage - time, finances, life experiences, etc.

My divorce is final on October 16. Excited doesn't begin to describe how I feel.

I googled it and I still don't know what you mental midgets are talking about

Turning the brightness of the lamps down a little bit every day to make someone think they're going insane.

while telling them that nothing has changed.

(that's what makes it gaslighting)

And said "victim" never thinks to check the dimmer switch?

the term originates from a play. the goal is to make the person doubt their own sanity, blame themselves, convince themselves bad behavior is acceptable


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gas_Light

Lol this place has so many professional gaslighters, I would ask a therapist or read a book instead.

I agree with swimmerbabe11.