What's normal with the kids these days? and by kids I mean post college adults almost in their 30s, of course. Let's not pretend like this isn't about me.

Is it a number of weeks/months?
Number of dates?
Certain number of times attended church together?
Do you have to be accompanied by the other party to the doctor to confirm no STDs?

Also, this is very serious so please only post here if you have serious intent to seriously help me as I am in need of serious guidance for my serious question. Thank you in advance.

I've told you multiple times that releasing that information is a HIPPA violation, why won't you trust me!

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But seriously, there's no book answer to this. Grow a sack and stake your claim when the timing is good.

Yeah. It depends. Different in every relationship.

It's only a serious relationship after you let him perform anal.

When you hit it and wake up the next morning wanting to hit it again.

You're taken?

I'd say when you take a trip to Greece together.

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When you hit it and wake up the next morning wanting to hit it again.

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Couldn't this just have been a quality "hit"? I assume that we are speaking of boxing.

And I don't dig the "every situation is different" bullish/t. There's an average or standard out there, take your snowflake-shaded glasses off you wusses.

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I'd say when you take a trip to Greece together.

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I was the 7th wheel. True story. It was still fun bc I'm amazing and can do anything.

If you go out on a "date" on any night other than Friday or Saturday it might be time to dtr.

Most of my relationships started out as drunken one nighters that I was allowed morning sex afterwards.

Have you and the new brohiem made the sex yet?

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Yeah. It depends. Different in every relationship.

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Really this. If yall talk everyday, meet during the week, watch Netflix marathons, have already bumped uglies, met each other's friends then it might be time to say "hey are we exclusive? I'd like for us to be". Not difficult

Ew.

Does that mean that it still requires a conversation at this age? Surely not, right? i don't actually have to talk about it, do I?

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Yeah. It depends. Different in every relationship.

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Really this. If yall talk everyday, meet during the week, watch Netflix marathons, have already bumped uglies, met each other's friends then it might be time to say "hey are we exclusive? I'd like for us to be". Not difficult

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Yup

Define exculsive. You can be with several people as long as when you go on dates with each individually in an exclusive capacity.

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Most of my relationships started out as drunken one nighters that I was allowed morning sex afterwards.

Have you and the new brohiem made the sex yet?

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You know that I am waiting for marriage, my dear, sweet, Hell-bound, only-holy-for-frijoles, sweaty-nacho loving friend.

Have you shown him your IUD certification card yet?

Anytime an actual conversation starts, just flop your yams out and shut him up

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Well my thought is that if I want to hit it again in the morning, then I'll continue wanting to hit it and have an exclusive relationship.

Granted my longest relationship was maybe a year and a half. But that wasn't consecutive. So maybe 6 months.

Yes you need to discuss this with the guy.

Friend of mine is 33, she went on 3 dates with a guy. She didn't hear from him for a month and was seeing other guys during this time. He got super upset because he thought they were "exclusive" and he "loved" her and was going to profess his love on their next date. She told him he was crazy and not to contact her again. Some guys can be just as crazy as females.

Was that story meant to reinforce your opinion that conversation should happen? Because it kind of did the opposite for me.

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Was that story meant to reinforce your opinion that conversation should happen? Because it kind of did the opposite for me.

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Me too. I'd block that number and move so he couldn't find me. That's how a dateline story starts

Sounds like someone's just looking for justification in being cowardly

However you go about it, make sure it's extremely vague and manipulative and passive aggressive, so you have something to fight about later. For example, I suggest using phrases like, "I'm just having fun and taking it one day at a time" to portray your expectation of an immediate proposal.

Rule one

It usually goes like this. Go out for drinks, get drunk, dance, make out, hook up. Text over the next few days, maybe call her again in a week or two, do the same thing, less foreplay, move straight to the sex. Start responding less frequently to texts and phone calls, say you're really busy with work, go out for drinks and sex again in the next 1-4 weeks. Slowly phase out of the rotation, rarely respond to texts, and when doing so, just keep them short and sweet. After she's had enough time to stop hating you, add her in to the booty call rotation.

Normal is when it feels comfortable being around the other person...as in, crossing the fart barrier. For some people that's 2 dates, for others it's several.

I've known you for 10 years!

We can just leave it unsaid.

I hate dtr as the guy since the guy is always the one that puts in all the work at the beginning of the dating. Once we finally get comfortable with each other and you can relax, you just want to enjoy and not worry about labels or "what are we." Puts pressure on the relationship and doesn't allow it to develop naturally. Woman only dtr since they feel like they're supposed to and not feel guilty about having sex with you so as not to seem like a "****."

I know this is TexAgs but I will give my real world answer.

Dated my wife for one month before we went exclusive.

My husband and I went on maybe 5-6 dates over the course of a couple weeks (and we talked on the phone every day) before he flat-out asked me if I would be his girlfriend. I of course said yes, but to this day I still laugh at him about it. We were 26 at the time, FWIW.

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Some guys can be just as crazy as females.

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As much as I love nervy, it does make me sorta happy when she devolves into weird panicky dude behavior.