Pinche (and others who might be interested in this take
You may be at the point that a nanny might be more cost effective. I'll tell my experience with one, but I also do realize not everyone can afford a nanny, and also that some have found amazing daycares for their kids. I was unlucky and didn't have great experiences with daycare.
My daughter, because of a demand in the decree by my ex, stays with my neighbor full time. It's twice the cost of a daycare for me (which is where you might benefit - kids at home, a nanny is about twice as expensive for me for one,) but other than when she was around daycare kids, she hasn't been sick a day since. I had issues with previous daycares. The ratios of kids: supervisor is nuts. If there were a fire, no idea how they'd get them all out. Propping bottles, diaper rashes, and letting in sick kids were big issues in both daycares she was attending. The caregivers just not having enough time in the day to pay attention to all the kids sucks. The good ones try, but the fact is: they can't. I was signing multiple injury reports/day for my daughter at one. She was learning to pull up etc, but when I have three in one day, it leads me to believe she wasn't being supervised close enough. She also would never sleep well there.
My kid would cry when I left her at daycare. I'd leave work early to rush home to get her. Now, every morning, my kid starts asking for "Mimi" and when we go over there, immediately wants down and runs to her. When we leave for the day, she will oftentimes run back over to her house. She has taught my kiddo a ton of stuff already, and if I am running late, tells me not to worry and makes her lunch out of her own food in the house. She buys clothes for her, shoes, etc. My neighbor takes her to the park so that she gets interaction with other kids. I bought a playset for them to use when I'm at work, so they'll run over to the house to go swing. She'll let the dogs out for me when she's there, or when I'm going to be late getting home.
Yesterday, I had to run a quick errand. I went over to see if she had the thing I needed, and she said no, but to leave my daughter there and she'd watch her. I came back, she was feeding her a snack and had the TV on the baby channel while playing with her on the floor. I don't have any help in the area, so she's a HUGE help. I couldn't do it without her.
I'm going to keep my daughter with this lady for a long while. She and I have made plans for when my daughter starts going to school as well.