tysker said:
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Everyone loses a fistfight now and then. Deal with it.
I would argue a large segment of kids rarely get a chance to lose and learn how to deal with negative outcomes. Many simply have not learned how to 'Deal with it.' It is as if many are missing that coping mechanism that turns stress or trauma into a long-term positive learning experience.
This right here.
We have Nerf-ed everything in society in order to never endanger our kids or give them ANY opportunity to taste or deal with failure. While you soccer moms thought everyone getting a trophy was a good idea, your good intentions simply paved a path to hell.
Not every kid is special-- regardless of what the sunshine pumping society tells you.
A small % of kids are special. A larger % are above average. An even larger % are just average.
Then there's a HUGE population that are below average. It's just the way it is.
And when you make ALL kids feel like they're "special" and they never get to deal with failure properly, this is what you get.