I've reached the point where I'm considering stopping all communication with an adult sibling. This person is selfish, has anger and alcohol problems, and treats family members poorly. I've finally had enough and could care less if I ever see or speak with this person again. I'm sure it will be upsetting to my parents, but I'm not like them. I refuse to keep tip toeing around this sibling at every family event and in my daily life. I don't want my children growing up thinking that the sibling's behavior is normal and acceptable. Just wondering if any of you have had a similar experience.

Yep!

Yes, unfortunately.

Yes. Several. Life is awesome without them in it. Your can't choose your family, why force yourself to be with them?

My wife basically cut ties to all of her toxic family. We've been married 25 years and I've never met her 2 brothers. One brother died last year and she didn't go to the funeral 100 miles away. Based on my very limited interactions w her methadone addict mom, I understand.

Life's too short for toxic people.

I am the toxic family member.

Nope. Family is everything.

Yep. One of the best choices I have ever made.

How much less could you care?

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Nope. Family is everything.

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This.

People, especially family members, are not disposable.

My wife did with her dad. Best decision she ever made. It is better our kids don't grow up knowing that selfish person. Unfortunate, but 100x more chances were given than deserved before that point.

In no way am I intending to be disrespectful but, do you feel this is the case with abusive family relationships? Abuse isn't always physical, you know.

I would mention my sister in laws transgressions but she's now saying she's "going to file a restraining order" over my Texags posts.

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In no way am I intending to be disrespectful but, do you feel this is the case with abusive family relationships? Abuse isn't always physical, you know.

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Nope. Family is everything.

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This.

People, especially family members, are not disposable.

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Disagree. Not only are they disposable, they are also wood-chipperable. Just because they are one or the other doesn't make it a good idea, but sometimes you've got to do what you've got to do.

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I would mention my sister in laws transgressions but she's now saying she's "going to file a restraining order" over my Texags posts.

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We never did get a rule 1 outta ya.

Yep.

A drug-addict cousin that scammed my grandmother out of tens of thousands of dollars just before he died of an overdose.

Hadn't talked to him in years, and then he showed up in SA with my grandmother, acting like her chauffeur. He was not allowed to stay at my house, and wound up at a hotel close by.

It's tough to disown family, but when they repeatedly screw up after multiple chances, cutting them loose is an option that needs to be taken.

ETA: Chronologically, the second paragraph happened before the first.

We used to just make the waitresses do it when we had a fancy night out at a place like Trail Dust

Need pics and stories before we can decide.

Or we will just assume you are the problem.

Gawd I loved the Trail Dust.

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Maybe if she hadn't screwed the front seven, she wouldn't have all that dirty laundry to air.

She was more into the secondary. And the wide receiver. And the point guard. And another who's name eludes me.

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Nope. Family is everything.

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This.

People, especially family members, are not disposable.

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I wish I could agree with this statement.

Did they happen to break in her rookie tight end?

We will probably forgive my sister in law in time when she shows some humility and stops blaming others for her issues. Maybe seeks some mental help too. But it's my wife's family and I'm really more of a bystander and will just do as I'm told. On my side of the family we've forgiven drug traffickers and a child molestor so I don't think anyone is above redemption. Except liberals of course.

I cut ties with my sister for a time. I was tired of her taking advantage of me and seeing her take advantage of my parents. She was a mess in every sense of the word. She's been sober for 4 years now, and I'm glad to say that we've mended our relationship.

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In no way am I intending to be disrespectful but, do you feel this is the case with abusive family relationships? Abuse isn't always physical, you know.

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'Abuse' is always physical. If you don't think so maybe you need to man up. I don't think this way when it comes to 'domestic disputes', because that has more to do with emotion. However, if just a family member, I feel like it should be easier to ignore or cut off.

My humble and admittedly naive opinion...

I politely disagree with you and sincerely don't wish it upon anyone to learn it isn't just physical.


But sure, I'll man up as soon as I grow a *****.

I have a cousin that I will not associate with. Drugs in her past, a lot.

Some of my other relatives have tried to help her. She cleans up for awhile and makes promises and seems sincere, but Mr. Brownstone, he won't leave her alone. No no no. He won't leave her alone.

One of my older cousins found fhe younger troubled cousin a job. I think she found her husband/baby daddy a job too. And co-signed on a car and put the down payment on it so they would have reliable transportation.

They screwed up again. Bought drugs. Got fired from the new jobs. Quit paying on the car.

Car was going to get repossessed. Older cousin says "I'm coming to get the car so I don't have a reposession on my credit since I co-signed for it."

Younger cousin and her husband took an aluminum baseball bat to the car. All glass was destroyed and dents all over the body.

She did have money for some really classy tattoos.

I would not be surprised if she had booked up with one of Tree Hugger's cousins.

She has FB friend requested me multiple times. I decline. And I don't attend family events where she will be present.

She, like feminism and liberalism, is cancer.

Does she have nice cans?

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Does she have nice cans?

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No.

She is at least 5 years younger than me but looks 10 years older.

No. Just ignore the person/antics and enjoy your life.