When someone is good looking, friendly and likes to have a good time, there's a better than even chance that they're eventually going to get hit on by a coworker, customer, vendor, somebody at a bar, etc. when their spouse isn't around. I am not particularly handsome, especially now that I'm old. However, there have been a handful of women at work over the years who made it very clear to me that they wanted to hook up.

I had worked with all of these women for a long time, and I don't think they were bad people. They had just temporarily lost their moral compass for some reason. It could have been mommy/daddy issues, low self-esteem, a rough patch in their marriage, or what? I don't know, and I didn't stick around to ask.

I've been married for 25 years, and I can't tell you how awesome it is... most of the time. I love my wife more today than I ever did, and that's a pretty damn good feeling. However, we've had our ups/downs and major arguments like everyone else.

We are all human; therefore, no one is 100% trustworthy 100% of the time. If one of those women had propositioned me when I was going through one of 3-4 major arguments I've had with my wife over the last 2 1/2 decades, and if it happened on a night when I was drinking, and if we were in a private setting... Well, I hate to say it, but there would have been a damn good chance that I would be divorced today or having to live with the guilt of being a cheating POS.

Now, I am certain that my wife has been hit on a lot more than me. I trust her, but I also know that she's human, too. If one of her "friends" at work tried to get cozy with her during a time when we were pissed off at each other, and when she was drinking, and when they were in a private setting, I don't think she's any more capable than I am of not acting on her urge to feel good now and worry about regret later.

only one thing to do in this situation.

you need to bang the guy.

reclaim your dominance.