What about a local Aggie former students club?
This. After moving to Nevada from Texas about 6 years ago, almost all of my friends were found from the local running community. Then through those connections I was able to meet other folks who are hunters, fishermen, dirt bike riders, hikers, etc. Joining a Crossfit gym or a local running club seems like a pretty healthy option.Boats and Hose said:
Have you considered joining a crossfit gym (all joking aside) or attending a boot camp of some sort? Something that will be proactive for your health but will also give you the opportunity to meet some people? Rec league basketball, softball, running club, etc. Maybe a couple's small group or men's bible study at church? Just throwing out ideas.
TXTransplant said:
I wasn't going to reply to this thread, but gosh - after reading all of these posts I just felt compelled to share.
Moving is so very hard. I moved to TX from AL - where I had a support system but a really awful job - 10 years ago. Lived in College Station (where I knew absolutely no one) for almost 3 years before moving to Houston. I've been here almost 7 years and still feel like I don't quite fit in.
I also get very moody this time of year. Today is the 10th anniversary of a shooting at the university in AL where I worked before moving to TX. I, thankfully, was not in the room, but I knew everyone involved. I am to a point where I don't think about it every day, but it's like my body remembers this time of year, even if I'm not actively thinking about it.
I don't really know what else to add, except feeling alone is so hard. I'm not married, but I often think feeling alone in a marriage would be worse than feeling alone single.
I started counseling last year and go a couple of times a month. Because of other family issues, I also go to ACA meetings.
I feel like I "know" a lot of people, but they aren't what I would call friends. And I've had to let a few (unhealthy) relationships go in the last year. Anyone that tells you making new friends at this stage of life is easy has probably never had to actually do it.
My support system (ACA and counseling) keeps telling me to just keep putting myself out there. It's so hard, and sometimes I do just stay home. But when I do have the motivation and energy, I do get out. Even if it's it's to do something solo (I went to a champagne tasting by myself a couple of months ago, and I'm going to a group cooking class and a concert by myself next month).
I've also started doing some daily meditation readings - one ACA-related and one about gratitude. I have a son, and he is no doubt what keeps me going. He has from day 1. As hard as it can be, focusing on the positive things - no matter how small - can make a huge difference.
Help_needed said:
So I have decided to go to counseling. I have to. Things don't seem to be getting any better and my wife doesn't think there is a problem.
One thing I have done is shut off social media. I think that's something. Also my alcohol use is way down.
I still am not happy but I seem to be surviving.