Yikes, sorry you had that experience! I grew up in church, but I'm still always learning new songs. Haha this morning two of them were brand new to me but everyone else seemed to know them but I was like, yeahhhh keep those lyrics on the projector...

If the OP is looking for tradition, the village/Watermark/Porch won't work unless it's probably Bible Study.

When I think traditional, I think wearing a coat/tie for a man and singing from a book of hymns.

However, for his ultimate goal, you can't do any better. Lots of younger women 20s/30s there looking.

Note: I've attended both churches and the Porch in the past. Personally had good experience at both but heard horror stories from others.

With apologies to the original poster:

http://babylonbee.com/news/local-singles-ministry-just-one-lonely-guy-hanging-church-cafe/