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I'm a father of two young kids, married, disabled veteran. Been battling lately and feel like I'm losing ground permanently. I have a mortgage, decent job, benefits, 401k, all that BS.. I'm tired. Exhausted. Still wake up everyday and do what I have to do, if only for my kids. I almost wrote that I'm "not sure" if I can do this until retirement age, but I know I can't. I regularly daydream of checking out of the rat race, buying land and slowing down. I feel like it would really help me long term. Maybe I'd be able to get off the cocktail of head meds that numb me. And that it would really be therapeutic and healing to live on a plot of land, away from "modern" culture and all the headaches that come with it. I get a little chunk of change from the gubmint every month, so I guess my dream is to get to a point where I can live off of that, maybe have a little business where I turn my wood working hobby into something more.
At the end of the day, my wife won't entertain the idea. She likes living in the burbs and prioritizes the kids going to a "good" public school over anything else - we cannot afford private school. Whenever I talk about doing something other than this, she acts like I'm selfish, irrational and immature. Don't get me wrong, she's a wonderful wife and mother and I love the woman for it. And to be clear, I don't intend to divorce or separate, but these ideas are starting to feel like a need, not a want. It feels like a necessary change and I need it to happen within the next few years.
I'm not quite sure what I'm expecting by posting this. I guess I'm looking for some guidance or advice from other fathers. I've had two friends from the military take their lives and, in their memory, have promised to be open with discussing mental health issues, regardless of consequence or judgment from others. This has been on my mind for a while, so I'm putting it out there. Thanks for reading and any constructive responses.
I'm a father of two young kids, married, disabled veteran. Been battling lately and feel like I'm losing ground permanently. I have a mortgage, decent job, benefits, 401k, all that BS.. I'm tired. Exhausted. Still wake up everyday and do what I have to do, if only for my kids. I almost wrote that I'm "not sure" if I can do this until retirement age, but I know I can't. I regularly daydream of checking out of the rat race, buying land and slowing down. I feel like it would really help me long term. Maybe I'd be able to get off the cocktail of head meds that numb me. And that it would really be therapeutic and healing to live on a plot of land, away from "modern" culture and all the headaches that come with it. I get a little chunk of change from the gubmint every month, so I guess my dream is to get to a point where I can live off of that, maybe have a little business where I turn my wood working hobby into something more.
At the end of the day, my wife won't entertain the idea. She likes living in the burbs and prioritizes the kids going to a "good" public school over anything else - we cannot afford private school. Whenever I talk about doing something other than this, she acts like I'm selfish, irrational and immature. Don't get me wrong, she's a wonderful wife and mother and I love the woman for it. And to be clear, I don't intend to divorce or separate, but these ideas are starting to feel like a need, not a want. It feels like a necessary change and I need it to happen within the next few years.
I'm not quite sure what I'm expecting by posting this. I guess I'm looking for some guidance or advice from other fathers. I've had two friends from the military take their lives and, in their memory, have promised to be open with discussing mental health issues, regardless of consequence or judgment from others. This has been on my mind for a while, so I'm putting it out there. Thanks for reading and any constructive responses.