I didn't say it magnifies her importance. You said He was always going to do it and He just used the request. I said the fact that God deigns to let creatures play these pivotal roles in His plans magnifies the importance of those requests, and assents.
I think we're getting into the weeds. You said it gave you the willies to think that Mary asks Christ to do what He said He will do anyway. He is the God of wine and water whether or not Mary asks Him to perform a miracle at Cana. He didn't change His character because of her request. He did do something because of Her request.
None of that really gets to the crux of the matter which is:
1. The saints are alive and pray for us
2. Intercession to God on behalf of the others by the living and by angels is part of Jewish scripture and tradition
3. There's nothing wrong with asking someone to pray with you and for you
4. It's not worship to ask someone to pray for you
5. It's not worship to venerate someone
I think we're getting into the weeds. You said it gave you the willies to think that Mary asks Christ to do what He said He will do anyway. He is the God of wine and water whether or not Mary asks Him to perform a miracle at Cana. He didn't change His character because of her request. He did do something because of Her request.
None of that really gets to the crux of the matter which is:
1. The saints are alive and pray for us
2. Intercession to God on behalf of the others by the living and by angels is part of Jewish scripture and tradition
3. There's nothing wrong with asking someone to pray with you and for you
4. It's not worship to ask someone to pray for you
5. It's not worship to venerate someone