diehard03 said:
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People can and will get offended about anything.
I think this cheapens the issue and basically declares that one doesn't really care about someone else.
People can, and will, get offended about anything, and often times for good reason. Maybe it was an internal trauma you triggered. Or maybe she was just responding to your non-verbal cues.
Give me a break. It has nothing to do with care about others. The act of doing a kindness for someone - which is knowable - along with the intent behind it - which is not - is what declares whether you do or don't care about someone else.
To make a person responsible not only for their own act, their own intent, but also the response of the other is to make the person responsible for the intent of the other as well. This is impossible.
Maybe, just maybe, she responded poorly because of her own ideas about men and women? And if she had an internal trauma, carrying that around to unleash on someone who acting within typical social norms doesn't make her a victim.
As for the bold part, ya got me. I am a secret non-verbal chauvinist, and the way I show this is by going around offering my seat to people. You know, I opened the door for a dude on crutches Saturday at a restaurant. It's probably because I hate people on crutches too.
At any rate - sarcasm aside - the truth is we can only control ourselves...which is enough of a burden on us as it is! It is completely on us to do the absolute best we can to never appear to condemn someone or be harsh in how we interact with them. But at the same time, this is no guarantee of success or that our actions will be accepted, even if we take every reasonable precaution and them some to be considerate. And you know what? Then the ball is back in our court to control how we respond. Again the standard is gentleness, kindness, and love.