I've never had one of my friends' husbands or boyfriends ask me to reimburse him for the tab after the weekend. I mentioned to him, id pay for my part but he kept buying rounds even when I didn't ask. I find it to be really unsexy and if it were my significant other, I'd get icks. Thoughts?
Do you pay for a woman's tab when it's not your significant other?
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You went out on what amounted to a group date and were asked to chip in less than he spent on you on dinner alone. You seem to have a problem with that. It may be unsexy to you, but he's not your boyfriend. Maybe he doesn't have a whole lot of money? Maybe he does, and he's frugal? Why is that any of your concern?
You offered to pay for yourself but now you get the icks that he took you up on the offer and requested less than your actual share? Did you make it clear you wanted no more drinks or did you keep going because the drinks kept coming?
She said in her first thread that he spent more than $50 on her for dinner alone. I don't think the drinks matter.
Just having a conversation about it boo. Most men I've known would have covered it.
bobcat90 said:
Just having a conversation about it boo. Most men I've known would have covered it.
So you like to take advantage of men for food and drink with ur bestie and when they ask you to chip in less than your dinner cost them you get the icks?
I take back my post in the other thread....Maybe ur the sleeze.
I love modern independent women.
They are total boss babes who tag along with their bestie and expect a man who has zero obligation to them to cover their extravagance for the night.
Yeah pretty much. It's unbecoming for a man to ask a woman to chip in.
Lol
Just out of curiosity.
Should women be paid the same as a man?
Just out of curiosity.
Should women be paid the same as a man?
Postits.
Yep but they aren't so there's that. And you're speaking to a single mom so tread lightly.
bobcat90 said:
Yep but they aren't so there's that. And you're speaking to a single mom so tread lightly.
Are you threatening me?
You wish!
bobcat90 said:
You wish!
Lol.
Based on your responses you are fully aware of the amount of delusion that your worldview exhibits and enjoy playing the game because the rules of society give you an upper hand. Fair enough.
Equality but only when it benefits you.
Any guy who falls into that trap should know better and i pity them. Good luck playing the game.
bobcat90 said:
Yep but they aren't so there's that.
This has been debunked so many times even feminist Harvard economists couldn't show evidence of it.
No hun. If i could have been barefoot and pregnant and had 5 kids and stayed home I would have.
I got the Hun!
Not to get too deep into your trauma but i think any woman who wants to be barefoot and pregnant can.
You just have to find the right man. And there are ALOT of men who would give their left nut to have a supportive, submissive wife at home who is happy and content to raise the kids, keep the house running efficiently and make a peaceful home for him.
I can tell you straight up a good man will take care of the woman he is with if she takes care of him in that situation.
Women who want that life and are willing to be submissive and a true housewife are difficult to find.
The only question I would ask is-
Are u willing to be supportive and submissive or do you just want to be able to stay home while retaining ur "independence" and not have to be the kind of submissive wife such a life requires?
Because you don't get it both ways.
If you were willing to be that and ur man ****ed it up then he's a loser.
If you were not willing to be submissive and supportive then u can't expect that kind of life.
Not to get too deep into your trauma but i think any woman who wants to be barefoot and pregnant can.
You just have to find the right man. And there are ALOT of men who would give their left nut to have a supportive, submissive wife at home who is happy and content to raise the kids, keep the house running efficiently and make a peaceful home for him.
I can tell you straight up a good man will take care of the woman he is with if she takes care of him in that situation.
Women who want that life and are willing to be submissive and a true housewife are difficult to find.
The only question I would ask is-
Are u willing to be supportive and submissive or do you just want to be able to stay home while retaining ur "independence" and not have to be the kind of submissive wife such a life requires?
Because you don't get it both ways.
If you were willing to be that and ur man ****ed it up then he's a loser.
If you were not willing to be submissive and supportive then u can't expect that kind of life.
Yeah, he f ed up for sure. But I'm not bitter!
Just was a little taken aback by sending 50 dollars to a well established man in his 40's. Especially when every time my friend and i were out in the past, he'd join us later and buy us drinks anyways. It was just different this time. I immediately Zelle d him. No questions asked. I'm gen X. I think it's different now. I went out with a guy friend of mine a few weeks ago and he paid but the said you got next time and again it kind of shocked me. But I'm happy to I'm just not used to it.
Just was a little taken aback by sending 50 dollars to a well established man in his 40's. Especially when every time my friend and i were out in the past, he'd join us later and buy us drinks anyways. It was just different this time. I immediately Zelle d him. No questions asked. I'm gen X. I think it's different now. I went out with a guy friend of mine a few weeks ago and he paid but the said you got next time and again it kind of shocked me. But I'm happy to I'm just not used to it.
bobcat90 said:
Yeah pretty much. It's unbecoming for a man to ask a woman to chip in.
Hahahhahahah this is not 1920, Auntie.
It's $50. Who gives a *****
Start your own tab and don't worry about it next time.
Start your own tab and don't worry about it next time.
bobcat90 said:
Yeah, he f ed up for sure. But I'm not bitter!
Just was a little taken aback by sending 50 dollars to a well established man in his 40's. Especially when every time my friend and i were out in the past, he'd join us later and buy us drinks anyways. It was just different this time. I immediately Zelle d him. No questions asked. I'm gen X. I think it's different now. I went out with a guy friend of mine a few weeks ago and he paid but the said you got next time and again it kind of shocked me. But I'm happy to I'm just not used to it.
Sorry sister but you are shamelessly used to taking advantage of men and are shocked when they are not letting it happen. Maybe that explains why you are single too.
Be nice and feminine to a man and he may shell out some change on you. Compete with him with your boss girl nonsense and he will treat you like he treats any other dude.
Is this a troll? Cannot tell.
I'm not sure, but it sure took a strange turn at Albuquerque…….713nervy said:
Is this a troll? Cannot tell.
Being in TexAgs jail changes a man……..no, not really
Bingo. That's what equality looks like.infinity ag said:
Compete with him with your boss girl nonsense and he will treat you like he treats any other dude.
If he had paid and wanted sex would you have given in?
you go out to eat with just a friend and expect him to pay? what?
also, what would you be saying if the wife and not the husband asked you to venmo her to cover for your meal they paid for?
also, what would you be saying if the wife and not the husband asked you to venmo her to cover for your meal they paid for?
How did he f up? No need to answer. You chose him. Aren't you a well established woman in your 40's? This is the 21st century, men and women are equal.
What doesn't give women the ick?
Suckas got to know!
What doesn't give women the ick?
Suckas got to know!
Honestly I don't think they are. I know a ton of women who immediately left work after getting pregnant and are now stay at home moms who run the house.Quote:
Women who want that life and are willing to be submissive and a true housewife are difficult to find.
Ill be honest. If a woman is hot I'll pay. If she's not I won't.
I usually subsidize but don't cover the entire check. Like my portion plus tip and an extra 20-40 to help out.
bobcat90 said:
Yep but they aren't so there's that. And you're speaking to a single mom so tread lightly.
No offense but I've read like 3 of your comments on this thread and I feel certain I know why you're a single mom.
wangus12 said:Honestly I don't think they are. I know a ton of women who immediately left work after getting pregnant and are now stay at home moms who run the house.Quote:
Women who want that life and are willing to be submissive and a true housewife are difficult to find.
A lot of women don't actually enjoy working. But they force themselves just because men work and most women have a little brother complex where they think men have a fun life. So they want in as well. Most women I know hate their jobs and complain all the time. But won't quit because of peer pressure. For some, being a stay at home mom is beneath them and women judge and taunt other women for staying at home all the time. So they don't want to be the one all other women are laughing at.
Women are such complex beings. They don't know what they want and are never happy when they get what they think they want.
Teslag said:
Ill be honest. If a woman is hot I'll pay. If she's not I won't.
Good point. I know what you mean, I have done that as well. It's just a guy thing.
So now it comes to the question of whether bobcat90 is hot or not.
Do we accept her self-declaration of her hotness?