Old RV Ag said:Ah, the deep thinking builder...just can't compete.Builder93 said:Old RV Ag said:But if you don't know how to channel your feelings it can translate into an emotional outburst. Where are you going with this? Six one half dozen the other.Builder93 said:But you can translate other emotions into feelings of anger, etc..Old RV Ag said:Ok - think we're saying essentially the same thing here. Think you use "emotions" where I use "feelings" - it's how we channel/react to our emotion/feelings that's important. Simple example - "that makes me feel angry" - no one should tell me my feeling angry is wrong. But, as you say, my anger should never translate to shooting up a school or hitting the wife.Builder93 said:Emotions are translated into feelings. Feelings can be wrong or may need a different perspective. Everyone has emotions. It's what makes us human. When we turn an emotion into the wrong feeling we get school shooters and domestic abusers.Old RV Ag said:Yep. Your feelings are your feelings and no one should tell you how to feel. However, what is critical is how you handle your feelings, how you respond to yourself and others based on those feelings, and how you let your feelings impact your goals and obligations in life. And not to see yourself as a victim and be happy and thankful for what you do have even when dealt a crappy hand.tandy miller said:This x100True Anomaly said:42 said:
Because I don't need to pay someone to tell me what I already know.
I'm sure it is helpful to a lot of people who need someone else to help them figure things out and face their issues and help find a way out.
I know my issues, I'm not scared to face them, I'm just too lazy sometimes, too get off my ass and do something about them.
This. People are scared to feel bad or have trouble reliving emotionally damaging parts of their life. And medication only helps so much. All medication will really do in the end is allow you a better chance to face these issues and figure out how they're going to be incorporated into your life in a positive way
The end goal of all of it is not to ever feel bad again- it should be to be able to excel in life and enjoy it despite negative thoughts or events that may happen
If you go into therapy expecting them to "fix" you, you're going to be disappointed. My goal in therapy is to learn to live with my conditions and baggage in a manner that allows me to live a fulfilling life, and hopefully enrich the lives of those that I come into contact with instead of being an overly emotional, irrational *******
It's a deep discussion in short bursts. I guess in my thinking I'm separating limbic vs pre-frontal cortex.
Doesn't have to be like that. We were getting into a conversation that was probably not going to be productive. I also meant a deep topic for both of us on a less than ideal platform for it. But if you want to make it a competition, then maybe you need some therapy.