it's weird how one sided we view these situations. I could tell very similar stories to those here about a crazy ex-wife from friends, but I also know that all those guys contributed to the demise of the marriage in their own ways.
Okay, he got 50/50 and other stuff, because you CONCEDED that to him. However, if you had contested everything allowed to you under the system (which most do), it's a virtual certainty he would not have ended up with such a "fair" deal.ShinerBlonde said:
I know several dads personally who have 50/50 custody (including my current husband). I also can tell you the flip side of the BSC ex wife with my BSC ex husband. I paid for my divorce after being a SAHM and gave him whatever he wanted to get out. Didn't touch his retirement, took less than the state calculated child support, gave him first pick of any of the furniture or items out of the house, let him pick his custody (he chose the minimum even when my lawyer recommended more), etc. 5 years later he is still incredibly bitter about our divorce to the point that my 13 year old said he needs to get help to get over it. He hasn't paid a dime of child support in almost 2 years. He hasn't provided insurance on the kids (court ordered) in almost 4. He doesn't work. He barely shows up for every other weekend visitation (typically once a month or less and take them to his parents house or whatever woman he is seeing) and has never taken his month in the summer or anything like that. He didn't buy the kids a single Christmas gift this year and kept the money his parents gave them for Christmas. I can go on and on. Divorce sucks and there are crazies on both sides. Choose who you have kids with wisely and if you didn't then just make the best of it. The kids will grow up and figure it out.
On the one hand, it sucks that your kids have a ****ty dad. On the other, you must be one hellacious piece of ass if, after walking away with nothing, your ex is still this broken. You want to post some pics, an onlyfans link, or something?ShinerBlonde said:
I know several dads personally who have 50/50 custody (including my current husband). I also can tell you the flip side of the BSC ex wife with my BSC ex husband. I paid for my divorce after being a SAHM and gave him whatever he wanted to get out. Didn't touch his retirement, took less than the state calculated child support, gave him first pick of any of the furniture or items out of the house, let him pick his custody (he chose the minimum even when my lawyer recommended more), etc. 5 years later he is still incredibly bitter about our divorce to the point that my 13 year old said he needs to get help to get over it. He hasn't paid a dime of child support in almost 2 years. He hasn't provided insurance on the kids (court ordered) in almost 4. He doesn't work. He barely shows up for every other weekend visitation (typically once a month or less and take them to his parents house or whatever woman he is seeing) and has never taken his month in the summer or anything like that. He didn't buy the kids a single Christmas gift this year and kept the money his parents gave them for Christmas. I can go on and on. Divorce sucks and there are crazies on both sides. Choose who you have kids with wisely and if you didn't then just make the best of it. The kids will grow up and figure it out.
Definitely sympathize with you. Hang in there. I agree though that you should hold him to his support obligations. Dads that are irresponsible are bad for everyone.ShinerBlonde said:
I know several dads personally who have 50/50 custody (including my current husband). I also can tell you the flip side of the BSC ex wife with my BSC ex husband. I paid for my divorce after being a SAHM and gave him whatever he wanted to get out. Didn't touch his retirement, took less than the state calculated child support, gave him first pick of any of the furniture or items out of the house, let him pick his custody (he chose the minimum even when my lawyer recommended more), etc. 5 years later he is still incredibly bitter about our divorce to the point that my 13 year old said he needs to get help to get over it. He hasn't paid a dime of child support in almost 2 years. He hasn't provided insurance on the kids (court ordered) in almost 4. He doesn't work. He barely shows up for every other weekend visitation (typically once a month or less and take them to his parents house or whatever woman he is seeing) and has never taken his month in the summer or anything like that. He didn't buy the kids a single Christmas gift this year and kept the money his parents gave them for Christmas. I can go on and on. Divorce sucks and there are crazies on both sides. Choose who you have kids with wisely and if you didn't then just make the best of it. The kids will grow up and figure it out.
And I hope you're able to finally get off that island.Gilligan said:
Wow!
That was a lot to read and I feel bad for so many of y'all.
I hope all of you struggling that you find happiness.
~G
I feel safer on my island...The Fife said:And I hope you're able to finally get off that island.Gilligan said:
Wow!
That was a lot to read and I feel bad for so many of y'all.
I hope all of you struggling that you find happiness.
~G