Maybe I was, maybe I wasn't.
ac04 said:
love that the OP pretends to be so self-confident and then posts this kind of drivel. hilarious.
BombayAg said:
My wife's cousin (woman) is married to this guy and they have 2 kids who are in single digits by age. The cousin is very ambitious, career minded and driven. She is doing reasonably well in her career and in many ways defined herself by her career. For Indian women, working is a relatively new thing so it carries a lot of prestige. She works long hours, she leaves early and comes back late, around 7pm.
Her husband is some years older and is very laid back in his career ambitions. I know him for many years and I think he is an intelligent person who knows what is going on in the world and can think and analyze. However, career-wise he is where he was 10 years ago and works for a Government agency where the work is mundane and boring but they have things like pensions and other stuff. Lots of red tape and work happens slow.
Outside of work he does not do anything to learn new skills in his job to move up or to find another job that pays him more. He takes the kids to classes, does the grocery and then watches TV and movies. He works for a Govt agency, so I was able to google and find his salary as it is public. He used to make slightly more than me in 2010 but in 2017 but I make about 85% more than him and now have a higher title.
I believe in learning new skills and making the changes to move up the ladder either in the same company or different. He does not seem to. I met him over lunch a month ago and asked him how his job was and he said "no job satisfaction but it allows for flexible hours". I was taken aback as I think that a man needs to man up and work to advance himself rather than settle for "flex hours".
Some years ago, my wife was praising him about how he helps out his wife in the house, takes care of the kids, does the laundry and helps out and how I don't do enough of that (bad bad husband). My argument was that I am doing an advanced degree from a top school (post A&M), and am learning other things to advance and bring in more income for us. I do help out and do things outside the house like lawn, bills, auto but not as much Mr Mom stuff as him. Last month I told her about what he said and she dismissively said she didn't respect him. Wow.
My question is do women here on this board and around you respect men who give up their career goals so that they can be Mr Mom? Do their own wives appreciate it or lose respect for them?
Adulterous trash, amiright?bh93 said:
Depends. Is the woman Amy Grant?
GeorgePlimpton said:
How pathetic are you? You're that insecure that you would start a thread insulting this guy with the hope that the replies would all be about how much better you are than him? Clearly your wife doesn't respect you and would rather be with the other guy. Sucks to suck
GeorgePlimpton said:
These threads are the best. Guy thinks everyone will stroke his ego and ends up urinating all over himself in front of everyone
713nervy said:
Ambition is a personality trait just like being direct, having a good attitude, being resourceful, etc. But, it's unlike the rest in that it's innate and likely cannot be learned. Nothing wrong with that - some people want to actively progress in their careers and some people do not. Just pick something that makes you happy and be the best [fill in the blank] that you can be. That's what I respect, Mr. Mom or otherwise.
aggie0420 said:
Sounds like your wife feels you should probably be a little more helpful around the house and take time to consider her more. Your plate seems pretty full. Seem smart and together. I understand, I am busy too, but take time to consider your wife and what you can do to be helpful. Be in the present. Listen to her.
This will help.
If you ever find that you are pondering what your wife thinks of you as husband... Step up, you are probably slacking.
MouthBQ98 said:
Knew a couple guys whose wives got into a really lucrative career, and they both basically quit once they were financially set as a family and became Mr. Mom. Worked out fine for them so far as I can tell.
ac04 said:
love that the OP pretends to be so self-confident and then posts this kind of drivel. hilarious.
ag97tx said:
Do you have kids and if so how old are they? As kids get older they get really busy with activities after school so maybe the purpose of his job is to bring in some pay or benefits but that they need flexibility for the kids activities. If two parents are putting in long hours to climb that career ladder who is taking care of the kids? Growing up my parents both turned down some growth in their professional careers because family time and kids lessons were a priority. At the end of the day you will hear people say that they wished they had more family time. Nobody says I wish I had worked longer hours.
So maybe her career growth abd his flexible job are a great fit for their family.
jetch17 said:
Haysoos, now we gotta see this sh*tty thread stay bumped at the top while you go back and reply to 53 replies you're just getting back around to after a 12 hour shift at the call center?
BombayAg said:713nervy said:
Ambition is a personality trait just like being direct, having a good attitude, being resourceful, etc. But, it's unlike the rest in that it's innate and likely cannot be learned. Nothing wrong with that - some people want to actively progress in their careers and some people do not. Just pick something that makes you happy and be the best [fill in the blank] that you can be. That's what I respect, Mr. Mom or otherwise.
Ok, so I am not Mr Mom. But I help out and do my fair share. It is hard with my job as I am the primary source of income. I sometimes think back and wonder if I had become Mr Mom by crumbling to the pressure, I would have hated myself and been probably laughed at later for being Mr Mom.
No easy way out.
BombayAg said:jetch17 said:
Haysoos, now we gotta see this sh*tty thread stay bumped at the top while you go back and reply to 53 replies you're just getting back around to after a 12 hour shift at the call center?
If you don't like then leave.It's a free country.
Go back to burger flipping, you illiterate degenerate.
713nervy said:BombayAg said:713nervy said:
Ambition is a personality trait just like being direct, having a good attitude, being resourceful, etc. But, it's unlike the rest in that it's innate and likely cannot be learned. Nothing wrong with that - some people want to actively progress in their careers and some people do not. Just pick something that makes you happy and be the best [fill in the blank] that you can be. That's what I respect, Mr. Mom or otherwise.
Ok, so I am not Mr Mom. But I help out and do my fair share. It is hard with my job as I am the primary source of income. I sometimes think back and wonder if I had become Mr Mom by crumbling to the pressure, I would have hated myself and been probably laughed at later for being Mr Mom.
No easy way out.
To clarify, what is hard because of your job? Helping out around the house?
It's all about priorities.
jetch17 said:BombayAg said:jetch17 said:
Haysoos, now we gotta see this sh*tty thread stay bumped at the top while you go back and reply to 53 replies you're just getting back around to after a 12 hour shift at the call center?
If you don't like then leave.It's a free country.
Go back to burger flipping, you illiterate degenerate.
It took me over two hours to sound out the words and punch out at burger bonanza, but 1000 goatses to you
GeorgePlimpton said:
These threads are the best. Guy thinks everyone will stroke his ego and ends up urinating all over himself in front of everyone
Hahahahahaha 4 cylinder Beemers.GAC06 said:
Is your higher salary and title what allowed you to afford that sweet entry level 3-series? That's the kind of car normally only wealthy people can afford to buy for their teenage daughters.