Prenup or No Prenup

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SkiMo
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The divorced thread got me thinking...

Any of you decide to go the prenup route before getting married? And what are your thoughts on it? I have significantly more assets than the person I am dating and really want to protect those if I decide to get married. I'm in my late 30s so I have worked a good portion of my life to get where I am and don't want to lose half of that **** if things were to go south down the road.

And if you didn't get a prenup, would you do so if you decide to remarry?
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If you start a marriage out on that note... good luck.
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You're not ready for marriage.
SkiMo
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Are either of you divorced?
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If you are worried about her taking you for half of everything, and you are only dating right now, chances are she's not the right woman for you.
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It depends on wether your are emotional or logical. Emotional problem get them. Logical people don't.
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It's sumpin nat you need to have

Cuz when she leave yo azz, she gon leave wit have
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I honestly don't think that he is that type of person. He's an awesome person and loyal and comes from a really good family. I'm just asking the question from a business standpoint. I'm not sure anyone who hasn't been through a divorce has the experience to answer honestly.
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histag10 said:

If you are worried about her taking you for half of everything, and you are only dating right now, chances are she's not the right woman for you.


Pretty sure the right woman doesnt exist for skimo.
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why would someone date another person with significantly fewer assets? that is like saying I am dating someone who is vegan but I only eat meat.
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Bayside Tiger Ag said:

It depends on wether your are emotional or logical. Emotional problem get them. Logical people don't.
I would say just the opposite is true. Emotional people are overcome with love and emotions at the time leaving logic out of the door. Statistics prove that about half of all marriages end in divorce. Logically speaking, there is a good chance that your marriage will end in divorce. I think prenups have a bad connotation. It's basically a document ensuring that an already painful process (divorce) won't get drug out through the courts wasting thousands of dollars and making it even more painful.
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SkiMo said:

The divorced thread got me thinking...

Any of you decide to go the prenup route before getting married? And what are your thoughts on it? I have significantly more assets than the person I am dating and really want to protect those if I decide to get married. I'm in my late 30s so I have worked a good portion of my life to get where I am and don't want to lose half of that **** if things were to go south down the road.

And if you didn't get a prenup, would you do so if you decide to remarry?
You know the Inception of Title Rule bars your assets from pre-marriage to be subject to community property division, right?
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Ragoo said:

why would someone date another person with significantly fewer assets? that is like saying I am dating someone who is vegan but I only eat meat.
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The Wonderer said:

SkiMo said:

The divorced thread got me thinking...

Any of you decide to go the prenup route before getting married? And what are your thoughts on it? I have significantly more assets than the person I am dating and really want to protect those if I decide to get married. I'm in my late 30s so I have worked a good portion of my life to get where I am and don't want to lose half of that **** if things were to go south down the road.

And if you didn't get a prenup, would you do so if you decide to remarry?
You know the Inception of Title Rule bars your assets from pre-marriage to be subject to community property division, right?
I do. But say you sell your house and then use the money from the sale to buy a new house when you get married then it becomes community property, right?
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My financial advisor and family have seriously asked me to consider it.

Only child so I will inherit half a family business and everything from my parents upon their death. What I have built up to this point is significantly bigger than what the SO has. She's been paying off student loans and debts and is nearly finished. Lack of debt early has helped me.

I'm not condering it as I want to marry once but i understand the landscape of marriage and what can be taken from me.
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Lmao I'm not getting divorced
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In you shoes I would get a prenup.

I was LOL poor when I got married so it didn't matter.
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SkiMo said:

I'm not sure anyone who hasn't been through a divorce has the experience to answer honestly.

Agreed. People with successful marriages obviously have no clue what they're doing.
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histag10 said:

If you are worried about her taking you for half of everything, and you are only dating right now, chances are she's not the right woman for you.
There's nothing wrong with being pragmatic. Even perfect beginnings have bad endings.

The question - "Are you expecting our marriage to eventually end up in a divorce?" - can be used as a rebuttal for both parties.
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Drawkcab said:

SkiMo said:

I'm not sure anyone who hasn't been through a divorce has the experience to answer honestly.

Agreed. People with successful marriages obviously have no clue what they're doing.
Congrats to you. But what I mean is, if you happened to be an unfortunate victim of divorce and lost a lot of money because of it then your perspective might change. Since things are perfect for you, you don't have real life experience to give a truly honest answer.
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I think the use of hitmen to end marriages is a better asset protection strategy for marital failure
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Pre-nups are just pre-made divorces that don't mean a thing if people don't activate them. While you may love your SO and are never, ever gonna give them up, that doesn't stop them from walking out on your ass while you're making eggs one Sunday morning.
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SkiMo said:

The Wonderer said:

SkiMo said:

The divorced thread got me thinking...

Any of you decide to go the prenup route before getting married? And what are your thoughts on it? I have significantly more assets than the person I am dating and really want to protect those if I decide to get married. I'm in my late 30s so I have worked a good portion of my life to get where I am and don't want to lose half of that **** if things were to go south down the road.

And if you didn't get a prenup, would you do so if you decide to remarry?
You know the Inception of Title Rule bars your assets from pre-marriage to be subject to community property division, right?
I do. But say you sell your house and then use the money from the sale to buy a new house when you get married then it becomes community property, right?
You'd need to look at tracing and transmutation of separate assets into communal.

http://www.baylor.edu/law/facultystaff/doc.php/268848.pdf
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The Wonderer said:

Pre-nups are just pre-made divorces that don't mean a thing if people don't activate them. While you may love your SO and are never, ever gonna give them up, that doesn't stop them from walking out on your ass while you're making eggs one Sunday morning.
This. There would be a lot of attorneys out there with a lot less money in their pockets if everyone was required to have a prenup.
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The Wonderer said:

Pre-nups are just pre-made divorces that don't mean a thing if people don't activate them. While you may love your SO and are never, ever gonna give them up, that doesn't stop them from walking out on your ass while you're making eggs one Sunday morning.
And that is my point. Thank you.
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The Wonderer said:

SkiMo said:

The Wonderer said:

SkiMo said:

The divorced thread got me thinking...

Any of you decide to go the prenup route before getting married? And what are your thoughts on it? I have significantly more assets than the person I am dating and really want to protect those if I decide to get married. I'm in my late 30s so I have worked a good portion of my life to get where I am and don't want to lose half of that **** if things were to go south down the road.

And if you didn't get a prenup, would you do so if you decide to remarry?
You know the Inception of Title Rule bars your assets from pre-marriage to be subject to community property division, right?
I do. But say you sell your house and then use the money from the sale to buy a new house when you get married then it becomes community property, right?
You'd need to look at tracing and transmutation of separate assets into communal.

http://www.baylor.edu/law/facultystaff/doc.php/268848.pdf
There in lies another issue. I live in a state with equitable distribution. But who knows where I will end up. I like moving around. A prenup also helps you keep **** consistent. If I moved to Texas then went through a divorce, the splitting of assets would be a lot more unfair.
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If your future wife is in it for the long haul it wont matter that you have a prenup.

If she is a gold digging ***** it will be an issue.
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powerbelly51 said:

If your future wife is in it for the long haul it wont matter that you have a prenup.

If she is a gold digging ***** it will be an issue.
He's already mentioned without me every saying anything that he has no issue with a prenup. Another reason why I'm asking. The door was opened.
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SkiMo said:

The Wonderer said:

SkiMo said:

The Wonderer said:

SkiMo said:

The divorced thread got me thinking...

Any of you decide to go the prenup route before getting married? And what are your thoughts on it? I have significantly more assets than the person I am dating and really want to protect those if I decide to get married. I'm in my late 30s so I have worked a good portion of my life to get where I am and don't want to lose half of that **** if things were to go south down the road.

And if you didn't get a prenup, would you do so if you decide to remarry?
You know the Inception of Title Rule bars your assets from pre-marriage to be subject to community property division, right?
I do. But say you sell your house and then use the money from the sale to buy a new house when you get married then it becomes community property, right?
You'd need to look at tracing and transmutation of separate assets into communal.

http://www.baylor.edu/law/facultystaff/doc.php/268848.pdf
There in lies another issue. I live in a state with equitable distribution. But who knows where I will end up. I like moving around. A prenup also helps you keep **** consistent. If I moved to Texas then went through a divorce, the splitting of assets would be a lot more unfair.
One thing to keep in mind is to ensure that your pre-nup conforms to the state standards of whatever state you're in and has standard invalidity clauses so that only those parts that don't meet the standard of the state of jurisdiction for divorce are the only ones stuck and the entire document is not struck as invalid. States vary on pre-nups. Plan accordingly.
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SkiMo said:

powerbelly51 said:

If your future wife is in it for the long haul it wont matter that you have a prenup.

If she is a gold digging ***** it will be an issue.
He's already mentioned without me every saying anything that he has no issue with a prenup. Another reason why I'm asking. The door was opened.
I see no reason not to. I don't understand how prudent financial planning is a good idea to most people, except when talking marriage.
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The Wonderer said:

SkiMo said:

The Wonderer said:

SkiMo said:

The Wonderer said:

SkiMo said:

The divorced thread got me thinking...

Any of you decide to go the prenup route before getting married? And what are your thoughts on it? I have significantly more assets than the person I am dating and really want to protect those if I decide to get married. I'm in my late 30s so I have worked a good portion of my life to get where I am and don't want to lose half of that **** if things were to go south down the road.

And if you didn't get a prenup, would you do so if you decide to remarry?
You know the Inception of Title Rule bars your assets from pre-marriage to be subject to community property division, right?
I do. But say you sell your house and then use the money from the sale to buy a new house when you get married then it becomes community property, right?
You'd need to look at tracing and transmutation of separate assets into communal.

http://www.baylor.edu/law/facultystaff/doc.php/268848.pdf
There in lies another issue. I live in a state with equitable distribution. But who knows where I will end up. I like moving around. A prenup also helps you keep **** consistent. If I moved to Texas then went through a divorce, the splitting of assets would be a lot more unfair.
One thing to keep in mind is to ensure that your pre-nup conforms to the state standards of whatever state you're in and has standard invalidity clauses so that only those parts that don't meet the standard of the state of jurisdiction for divorce are the only ones stuck and the entire document is not struck as invalid. States vary on pre-nups. Plan accordingly.
Thank you for the advice!
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superunknown said:

histag10 said:

If you are worried about her taking you for half of everything, and you are only dating right now, chances are she's not the right woman for you.


Pretty sure the right woman doesnt exist for skimo.


It's the 21st century, and I'm not here to judge


Sorry skiMo, was unaware you were a woman. In that case, no need to get a prenup. The courts will never make a woman give up her stuff to a man. It would be discrimination and antifeminist.
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histag10 said:

superunknown said:

histag10 said:

If you are worried about her taking you for half of everything, and you are only dating right now, chances are she's not the right woman for you.


Pretty sure the right woman doesnt exist for skimo.


It's the 21st century, and I'm not here to judge


Sorry skiMo, was unaware you were a woman. In that case, no need to get a prenup. The courts will never make a woman give up her stuff to a man. It would be discrimination and antifeminist.
I'm an man, baby.
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powerbelly51 said:

If your future husband is in it for the long haul it wont matter that you have a prenup.

If he is a gold digging ***** it will be an issue.
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