Do you strive to "turn the other cheek"?

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kjaneway
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Much of the beatitudes seem almost impossible for me to personally do.

This one seems to be one of the biggest, yet probably one I could change the easiest.

When you are mocked, slandered, stabbed in the back (by people you trust), how do you respond? Do you ignore, try to be nice?

I know that's what you SHOULD do, but how many of you find that you are able to "turn the other cheek"? And, when does that become totally detrimental to your survival (i.e. terrorist acts, etc)?

Christ said, to paraphrase, "remember that when you are persecuted, I was persecuted before you", and that you should love your enemy, because it's easy to love those who love you.

How many of you find that you can do this?

Not trolling, I seriously want to know.
titan
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janag,

Your question here points to the stickier part:
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I know that's what you SHOULD do, but how many of you find that you are able to "turn the other cheek"? And, when does that become totally detrimental to your survival [i(i.e. terrorist acts, etc)?


On a personal, individual level, I do strive to practice it with varying degrees of success or failure. Its on the national level that I don't find it even that workable, and arguably, not really the same anyway. Policies are somewhat artificial entities to start with--- when you strike back against terrorist's `policy' even though it gets very hateful at times, really, you are going after the *act*, not an individual. Same goes for war. Some acts have to be shut-down by a counter-act.

However, its not cut-and-dried, so I am just saying that I don't advocate it on a collective level, but yes, on an individual level. I don't know if that makes sense, but here's an example.

A person could forgive a rapist on an individual level, but society probably should not----they should still throw him in the hoosegow at a minimum. Another case---Pope John Paul II forgave his would-be-assassin, but I don't think Italy's jail system then released him?

Does this make any sense?

kjaneway
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That makes sense, titan.

And realistically, the small slings and arrows we face daily are miniscule and unimportant. Threats to life, as the Pope received, are more difficult to forgive, but I noticed he has. I also read a passage in Matthew a few nights ago that said to NOT forgive is a slap in the face of all that Christ went through for us. If he could pray for forgiveness for his enemies as he's being tortured, I can certainly strive to forgive the little things, and hope that others can forgive me, also.

One thing we have learned in our 40 Days of Purpose series is to strive to be more "Christlike". I find His humility and knowledge that He was here for a purpose to be nearly impossible for mere humans to live up to. When we realize that this life on earth is so unimportant in the overall eternal life thing, it does make it easier to "turn the other cheek".

I notice Christians on here do it really well. People taunt them, and they respond with gentle humor. (most do, anyway). I admire and respect that.
Frankenstein
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I am LOUSY at turning the cheek - my cynicism tells me you run out of cheeks at 2.

My own nature is pretty vengeful, I admit.
Quixote Ag
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I am only successful at turning the other cheek with my kids.

6 year old or 12 year old "I HATE YOU"

Me - "I Love You"

Takes the wind right out of their sails.
Nederag
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The Beatitudes are so challenging because they go against our human nature, and are so compelling because they are confirmed by our spiritual nature. Turning the other cheek is tough when almost everything in you says to hit the other guy's cheek, instead. And even the best of us will never in this life attain the Christlikeness neccesary to live all the time in the Beatitudes.
But I try. I know it pleases God. I know it is an important testimony to the lifechanging power of His Holy Spirit. I know it is the antidote to the poisons which afflict America and the world.
titan
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janag,

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That makes sense, titan.

And realistically, the small slings and arrows we face daily are miniscule and unimportant. Threats to life, as the Pope received, are more difficult to forgive, but I noticed he has.


Yes he has. And I was indeed talking about major things, like threat to life or property. Even these, *on an individual basis* one can strive to forgive. My main stickler point is whether it can be practically practiced collectively. In foreign policy, I do not think you can let evil go unretaliated. We will have our answer if Al Qaeda leaves Spain alone.
3rd Generation Ag
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It is really hard.

It goes with that forgiving seventy times seven part also.

I know that the right thing to do is to forgive, love, and go on. But it is tough, not so much with little things, but with those actions that really hurt.

Yet not forgiving not only is un Christ like--it really causes me more damage--gives the other person more power over me. There is no doubt that living the beatitudes would bring great spiritual comfort. A few like Mother Teresa seem able to do it.

I am weak, and sometimes I don't try as hard as I should.
bogustrumper
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3rd Generation Ag, You put it perfectly.

I know that it is poison. I have been working really hard to change.

I think the damage done to yourself is not worth the instant gratification of lashing out in any given situation. It is selfish and inward looking.

However, when people mess with my family ...hmmm ...still working with that one. Tougher to handle because I don't want anything bad to happen to them ever.
brotherruss
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Hey guys! This is my first post. Thought ya'll might be interested in this article. He is one of my professors and his work on the Sermon On The Mount has generated alot of interest in the last 2 years. In short, he makes the case that the Sermon On The Mount is not about high and unattainable ideals, but are in fact designed to be specific and viable alternatives for Christians in a non-Christian environment. Hope this is interesting : http://www.fuller.edu/sot/faculty/stassen/14Triads.htm

B Blessed

R U S S
Orphan
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Our Lord was talking directly to his audience, those cast out by society. He was telling them that although they were neglected and rejected by society, they were welcome in the Kingdom of Heaven.

The Beatitudes are probably the most misunderstood and mis-taught sections of Gospel.

david
jkotinek
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Welcome Russ!

Given your (and your professor's) interest in the Beatitudes, you might very much enjoy this book, Ladder of the Beatitudes, by Fr. Jim Forest:

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1570752451/103-2586056-8951840?v=glance

(Your interest in pacifism might also lead you to check out the organization for which Fr. Jim serves as secretary, the Orthodox Peace Fellowship: http://www.incommunion.org




Christ is in our midst!

"At the Last Judgement I shall not be asked whether I was successful at my ascetic exercises, nor how many bows and prostrations I made. Instead I shall be asked, Did I feed the hungry, clothe the naked, visit the sick and the prisoners? That is all I shall be asked"-Mother Maria Skobtsova

"Modern commerce and social agendas *are* at war with their values"-titan

"If you're aware you sin everyday, you're living in sin."--janag81

"anytime you stop talking about specific goals and objectives and start talking about killing a thousand of them for one of us to show them, you've just deposited your humanity in the toilet." --utut

"There is something right about this world. There is a plan, and we are too human to be making the decision as to whether a life full of potential stays or goes." --TCLTC

"It is not cowardice to stand up to a bully government and it's moronic leader.' -- MH99

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brotherruss
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Thanks for the welcome! OPF is a great organization. Has anyone had a chance to read the article? I didn't want to just repeat what it says best.

B Blessed

R U S S
jkotinek
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Russ, I have, but I'm afraid you're preaching to the converted as it were.

But, for those that may not have read the article and are looking for Cliff's Notes version on its applicability to this thread (and therefore ignoring some absolutely wonderful social and spiritual insight), scroll down a bit and look at the seven difficulties that result from an improper understanding of the Commandments of Blessedness (Stassen's thesis is that a dyadic rather than a triadic interpretation of the divisions in the text leads to just such an oversight).

Russ, I'm absolutely delighted to have read this and proposed Jim Forest's books precisely because it explicates the end result of Stassen's thesis (that the Beatitudes are livable expectations; they are instructions for living in the Kingdom now) in a more accessible manner (at least to a layperson like myself).

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texpat-ute
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This has been a tough one for me as a law enforcement officer. I can only say that I act with violence occasionally in my job, but the ego is separated from that because professional training makes the actions more or less mechanical. When John the Baptist was asked by soldiers what they should do, he did not tell them to cease being soldiers; likewise there is no record of Paul's Philippian jailer ceasing to be a jailer. Paul as a matter of fact warned Christians that government authorities were necessary to organized human society in which the wicked were to be punished. On a personal level, it never pays to bear grudges, gossip or be duplicitous because this always brings physical, emotional and mental stress back to the bearer. Forgiveness, on the other hand, frees one up to great creativity and spiritual growth. If I could compare the gossip or grudge-bearing to anything, it would be idolatry. God is still in control and able to protect your reputation with the people that matter, even if in the short term that seems to hard to bear.

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Dr. Mephisto
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quote:
6 year old or 12 year old "I HATE YOU"

Me - "I Love You"


. . . Then I get a belt and beat the ever-livin, ever-lovin, compound, complex, FIGHTIN-Texas-Aggie-[insert red you-know-what Aggie tradition here] HECK outta him!

WWWHHHHOOOOOOOOOOOPPPPP!!!!
AggieSarah01
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Forgiveness is something that really is hard to do, and I have discovered this recently.

In our human nature, forgiveness is impossible. Luckily, we can turn to God and ask for His help in forgiving someone who has wronged us. I try to forgive again and again, I WANT to forgive, but my heart can still hold bitterness. Luckily, the grace of my Savior covers over my sin and will change my heart if I persist in prayer to Him and persist in my desire for Him to change my heart.
brotherruss
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jkotinek~

Thanks so much for your affirmation and shorthand version of the article. The book sounds really great! I just taught our adult class (picture a 23 year old in a circle with 7 80 year olds)and discussed turning the other cheek, going the second mile, and giving your cloak as well (following Wink's treatment of these texts) and they were sooo excited. They want me to teach again this Sunday, drawing some more practical applications. Does the book cohere with Wink? Are there practical applications? It sounds like my library will be getting a book bigger! For those who have not read the article I linked, it is worth it. Without getting the triadic structure into your bones Jesus' admonitions make little sense and seem to be impossible for the faithful to emulate.

B Blessed

R U S S
NonReg85
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from incommunion.org Response to Fr Pat:

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Fr. Pat objected to the use of the word "murder" in the Iraq Appeal. We used the term twice, first in referring to Saddam Hussein ("He came to office by intrigue and murder, and remains in power by the same means; he is his own country's worst enemy. The Iraqi people deserve to be rid of him." and then again in remarking that the killing of noncombatants is murder. The alternatives -- for example "collateral damage" -- bring us into the world of agnostic Newspeak.
Does this mean that murder is a valid description of anyone's action that causes death regardless of intent? If, while hunting dear, I fire a weapon that misses its mark (the dear) and kills a person I have committed murder? Or, is it simply because war intends to kill some humans (combatants) that the accidental killing of other humans (non-combatants) becomes murder and collateral damage becomes "agnostic Newspeak?"

These are serious questions. I didn't spend much time on the site so the answer could have been there and I missed it.


Note: I cut and pasted the quote, the was added by TexAgs because the original text was a semicolon followed by a close parenthesis.


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jkotinek
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Russ-
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Thanks so much for your affirmation and shorthand version of the article. The book sounds really great! I just taught our adult class (picture a 23 year old in a circle with 7 80 year olds)and discussed turning the other cheek, going the second mile, and giving your cloak as well (following Wink's treatment of these texts) and they were sooo excited. They want me to teach again this Sunday, drawing some more practical applications.

It sounds as though you have a wonderful community in which to learn and teach. What a blessing!
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Does the book cohere with Wink? Are there practical applications? It sounds like my library will be getting a book bigger!

Being unfamiliar with Wink, I had to do some research before responding. As the nature of my research was rushed, I hope that you will forgive and correct any hasty generalizations.

In a sense specific to our conversation here, I would say that yes, Forest’s treatment of the Beatitudes coheres with what I found about Wink’s teaching that Christ’s directives are intended for us to reclaim an intended harmony.

But, in a more general sense, my research on Wink revealed that his philosophy strays from Orthodox teaching—most notably in his Christology. What I read indicated a tendency to de-emphasize Christ’s divinity and focus on His humanity, along the way showing alternating strains of Gnosticism, Arianism, and Sabellianism. What concreted my evaluation of Wink was the indication in J. Harold Ellens recent review of The Human Being that Wink rejects the important Christological formulations of the Ecumenical Councils. In that sense there is a huge divide.

However, I don’t think that the gap is unbridgeable, and, in fact, I think it stems from a healthy counter-reaction to our modern-day selfish culture. The emphasis Wink places on living in the kingdom now is spot on, I just think that he fails to realize that our participation in and union with the divinity of the Trinity as an all-important part of that process.

In Ladder of the Beatitudes, Forest gives many practical examples of opportunities to participate in this transformed reality. For the Orthodox Christian, this develops as an understanding that our participation in the sacraments is eschatological, that is (to use a common phrase): “we are what we are becoming.” The sacraments, then, necessarily are grounded in an objective reality by a physical element, and participate in the reality that Christ transformed by infusing the same physical acts with His transcendent grace. So, there is a way in which Wink’s words (I’m paraphrasing here: ) “our salvation is to become more human,” mean exactly what an Orthodox Christian would believe—that is, that Christ re-connected and perfected humanity in the hypostatic union of His divine and human self and we can therefore aspire, through His grace, to participate in that perfected humanity. However, what Wink conveys is an elevation of Christ’s humanity over His divinity simply because that is also what we bring to the equation. It is, in short, humanism. In contrast, Forest talks about seeing all life as sacramental; that is, if we believe that Christ transformed all of our reality ("that which is unassumed is unredeemed" then we will strive for communion with others as a natural result of our communion with God. The end result on the social scale is very similar, the difference is in motivation.
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For those who have not read the article I linked, it is worth it. Without getting the triadic structure into your bones Jesus' admonitions make little sense and seem to be impossible for the faithful to emulate.

And I would like to reiterate my recommendation as well. I would also like to recommend another article from the OPF site which is, again, similar (though not so fleshed-out as Forest’s), “Living the Beatitudes”:
http://www.incommunion.org/incommunion/Chryssavgis.htm

I hope that my dialogue isn’t taken as combative, but as constructive and conciliatory: the sense in which it is offered. I am heartened, whatever the outcome, to hear another perspective that champions Christ’s humanity (just not to the point of diminishing His divinity) because that is the basis of our salvation. Even more, I laud the aim of your position to encourage living in the reality that Christ transformed, and thus greet you with the greeting that we Orthodox use to constantly affirm the reason of and our participation in that reality: Christ is in our midst!

I look forward to your answer. Feel free to respond by email (in profile) if that better suits your purposes.

NonReg85-
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Does this mean that murder is a valid description of anyone's action that causes death regardless of intent? If, while hunting dear, I fire a weapon that misses its mark (the dear) and kills a person I have committed murder? Or, is it simply because war intends to kill some humans (combatants) that the accidental killing of other humans (non-combatants) becomes murder and collateral damage becomes "agnostic Newspeak?"

Without the benefit of Fr. Jim’s direct guidance, I can only share what I believe to be the meaning in the statement quoted above. That said, I think you come closer with your second proposition (bolded above) for the following reason: the difference between murder and accidental killing is in intent. In your illustration above, you give an example of how the resulting actions of your intent can go awry, yet the intent to end a life (or neglecting to adequately account for the potential of deadly force—the singing bush in The Three Amigos comes to mind )is predicated on a selfish (used non-pejoratively here) elevation of self above another. Titan and I have had several conversations—here and off-line—about the complications of political necessity, but the bottom line remains that from a Christian standpoint at least, that taking a life is a matter of conscience that must be dealt with individually, no matter how it is justified politically.

You might also find this article helpful:
http://www.incommunion.org/incommunion/murder.htm

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brotherruss
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jkotinek~

I appreciate your reply and I did not take it as hostile at all! Regarding Wink, I have not read the book whose review you read. My reference to Wink was regarding his specific treatment of Matt 5:38-41. See this in short form: "Reclaiming Jesus' Noviolent Alternative," Living Pulpit 7 no 4 O-D 1998, p 40-42. Or at length "Beyond Just War and Pacifism:Jesus' Nonviolent Way," Review and Expositor 89 (1992): 197-214.


Anyways, I will need to do some more research on his supposed Christological claims. I certainly am not in favor of throwing out the orthodox position on Christ's divinity; I am however well aware that there are many people (not saying this is you at all) who are creedally founded yet practically Docetic. Regardless of how Wink treats this, I would never overemphasis one aspect of Christ to the detriment or devaluation of the other. Certain contexts do though demand extra emphasizing of one, when it has been ignored or underapplicated.

The book you recommended sounds great. I guess I'm wondering if I checked it out from the library would I be able to draw from it by this Sunday or should I take longer to go through it and use it at a later time.

For any that are wrestling with the issue of turning the other cheek, the above link is specifically helpful. I believe strongly that Jesus practiced, preached and expects us to practice and preach nonviolence. I do believe however that it is not a passive nonviolence. It is only really Christlike when it is active nonviolence. That is additionally when it is most effective as a viable alternative to war/violent retaliation/angry aggression.

B Blessed

R U S S




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jkotinek
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Russ-

Sorry. I am often fond of making mountains out of molehills. I will look for the articles you suggested (I was actually looking for the second when I found what I did) and get back to you.
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The book you recommended sounds great. I guess I'm wondering if I checked it out from the library would I be able to draw from it by this Sunday or should I take longer to go through it and use it at a later time.

Yes and yes. The book is short andaccessible enough that you could make use of it immediately, but rich enough to go back and take your time going through it.

Jon
Physics96
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Speaking of nonviolence, I'm having a hard time understanding the moral lesson in this statement from the Vatican.
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HOLY SEE DEPLORES KILLING OF AHMED YASSIN
VATICAN CITY, MAR 22, 2004 (VIS) - Holy See Press Office Director Joaquin Navarro-Valls, in answer to journalists who asked about the killing this morning of Sheik Ahmed Yassin, co-founder and spiritual leader of Hamas, replied with the following declaration:

"The Holy See joins the international community in deploring this act of violence which is unjustifiable in any State of law.

"The position and the sentiments of the Holy See are clearly expressed in the Holy Father's words to the diplomatic corps last January 12 when he repeated 'to the leaders of these two peoples (Israelis and Palestinians): the choice of arms, the recourse on the one hand to terrorism and on the other to vendettas, humiliating one's adversary, and rancorous propaganda, lead nowhere. Only respect for the legitimate aspirations of each other, a return to the negotiating table and a concrete commitment by the international community can lead to the start of a solution'.

"Authentic and lasting peace can never be the fruit of a mere show of strength: 'above all it is the fruit of moral and juridical action'-"

Yassin was killed in a missile attack by an Israeli helicopter early Monday as he left a mosque following morning prayers.

http://www.ewtn.com/vnews/getstory.asp?number=44908

It has certainly impelled me to rethink some of my own notions about the moral grounds for self-defense. Specifically, it would appear that there is never a moral ground for using military force in response to terrorism under this analysis, since (1) the damage has already been done by the attack and (2) the forceful response does not prevent imminent harm (it is essentially a "vendetta" by definition). In a way, this makes sense: you can't morally kill someone in revenge for killing a member of your family, so it shouldn't be any more right for a nation to do so. But the analogy is so complicated with respect to nations and terrorist organizations that it isn't clear to me that it should hold. It seems to me that international law is by treaty, not by some inherent sovereign principle, so there really isn't an analogous enforcement authority as there would be in the case of individuals in a civil society. I think the Vatican is relying on a notion of internationalism that is prevalent in Europe, but I'm not sure that they have explained the moral or philosophical basis for this notion, or at least, I am not aware of such an explanation. It leaves me a little confounded, to say the least.
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