If you know your spouse struck one of their children leaving bruises. ... very large bruises..... what should be done to protect your kids and the spouse still suffer their consequences? (Edited for spelling)

Tell junior to shut his mouth

Seriously... knee jerk reaction was to call the police... but it's been a few days now. CPS came to mind but won't both spouses be in danger of losing the kids or just the one that inflicted the trauma?

http://www.thehotline.org/

My mom works for APS (adult version of CPS). She says that the parent who called (the non-hitting one) would be protecting the child and therefore the child would most likely not be removed from that parent.

Uhhh, Divorce

Did the kid deserve it? There ain't nothing wrong with whippin your kids ass if they really messed up. I messed up very bad a few times and had a few bruises to show for it. One of those when you dad says you are going to remember this tomorrow when you sit down. He was right and I still remember it 30 years later.

If spouse has anger issues then GTFO!

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Giving your kid bruises intentionally is never ok.

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Agreed, you don't intend to give them bruises if you are sane. However, bruises may be necessary if they need to learn a lesson and are slow to tell you that they have learned that lesson.

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Damn! I thought this was going to be a discussion on how to get away with it. While I have a lot of advice on that, I have nothing to add to this.

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****. Not even remotely funny or clever.

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Giving your kid bruises intentionally is never ok.

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Agreed, you don't intend to give them bruises if you are sane. However, bruises may be necessary if they need to learn a lesson and are slow to tell you that they have learned that lesson.

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Holy crap. Pathetic.

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Did the kid deserve it? There ain't nothing wrong with whippin your kids ass if they really messed up.

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Agree? No comment.

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Damn! I thought this was going to be a discussion on how to get away with it. While I have a lot of advice on that, I have nothing to add to this.

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****. Not even remotely funny or clever.

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Newsflash: it's catch. He's joking. You are one of the reason the Houston board absolutely blows now.

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Agree, that dood has been sniffing way too many bike seats

Thanks all!

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If you know your spouse struck one of their children leaving bruises. ... very large bruises..... what should be done to protect your kids and the spouse still suffer their consequences? (Edited for spelling)

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Depends completely on the situation, type of bruise, where the bruise is and past history with your spouse.

Simply because a bruise is on the kid doesn't mean that abuse was the cause - and jumping to conclusions and potentially ruining the life, career or ability to be a parent because of a wild assed guess is not the right answer.

Are we talking bruises on the butt due to a whipping for something the kid did that deserved a whipping, black eye, fist shaped bruises in the ribcage, bruises from the kid running away to avoid a spanking? There are a hundred different scenarios that it could be. You are leaving way too much to the imagination.

There is a difference between physical discipline and abuse - make sure you are not crossing the line between the two. Abuse is bad. Discipline is a good thing that is sorely missing on the vast majority of the ****heads that are being raised by the internet and crappy parents these days.

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If you know your spouse struck one of their children leaving bruises. ... very large bruises..... what should be done to protect your kids and the spouse still suffer their consequences? (Edited for spelling)

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Depends completely on the situation, type of bruise, where the bruise is and past history with your spouse.

Simply because a bruise is on the kid doesn't mean that abuse was the cause - and jumping to conclusions and potentially ruining the life, career or ability to be a parent because of a wild assed guess is not the right answer.

Are we talking bruises on the butt due to a whipping for something the kid did that deserved a whipping, black eye, fist shaped bruises in the ribcage, bruises from the kid running away to avoid a spanking? There are a hundred different scenarios that it could be. You are leaving way too much to the imagination.

There is a difference between physical discipline and abuse - make sure you are not crossing the line between the two. Abuse is bad. Discipline is a good thing that is sorely missing on the vast majority of the ****heads that are being raised by the internet and crappy parents these days.

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The only bruises I received were long and belt-shaped across my ass.

Be an American. Call it in.